Recently someone pointed out to me that I never took a stance on a previous post about staying in contact with an ex. I explained that I was merely providing a forum for other people to express their opinions and that I certainly wouldn’t want to sway opinions by stating my own.
However, I don’t want to appear cowardly by not sharing my stance on the matter so here goes…
I can only speak for myself. Only I know and understand my past relationships and how they affected me and how that person makes me feel now. So to say that it’s okay or not okay to stay in contact with an ex is too blanket of a statement. I can honestly stay in contact with some people and it’s no big deal. Staying in contact with others isn’t that simple. I’m sure it’s that way with most people.
Everyone is different so when I hear someone say ‘I still talk to my ex and my wife/husband doesn’t like it, but it’s harmless,’- I guess it could be harmless. However I firmly believe that if the most important person in your life is your significant other, then if communicating with an ex bothers them, shouldn’t you stop? Does the ex mean more to you than your significant other and if so, something’s up.
So, do I stay in contact with some of my ex’s? A couple, but nothing ongoing. I don’t keep it a secret from my husband and if he had a problem with someone I’d stop communicating.
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